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Can you just tell us about that? CHANG: Yeah. But the thing is... WIZENBERG: ...That Brandon is still there, too. It's - so I'm now remarried, actually, to my partner Ash. We Insist: A Timeline Of Protest Music In 2020. WIZENBERG: And the three stars that I would think of are now me and Ash and June. But in her new memoir "The Fixed Stars," Molly Wizenberg learns to accept the new shape that constellation takes as she draws new lines, makes new connections, and makes room for self-discovery. Our family constellation - it looks different now. 5,045 Likes, 171 Comments - Molly Wizenberg-Choi (@molly.wizenberg) on Instagram: “Bought this place in early 2011 with @delanceyseattle, who I married 11 years ago today, and now…” I felt and I continue to feel waves of this - such sadness for, I think, the hope that my now-ex-husband and I had for our lives. And I found myself - unlike any other crush I had ever had, this didn't feel like a light-hearted thing.

And more than anything, I feel real sadness for what happens to that hope when it doesn't fit us anymore... WIZENBERG: ...Because we were very intentional, and we loved each other very much and wanted the best for each other. This text may not be in its final form and may be updated or revised in the future. Molly Wizenberg joins us now. WIZENBERG: Absolutely.

CHANG: Molly Wizenberg's new book is called "The Fixed Stars.". I had been married for that - at that point for the better part of a decade.

Thank you so much for this book and for this conversation. This was absolutely a pleasure. Like, when you move from one idea of who you are to the next idea, there is a mourning for what you are giving up, isn't there? I know I was afraid of it. CHANG: One central idea that you confront is this false belief that who we become in life is some fixed person. WIZENBERG: It sounds like, well, what do we have to count on if at any given time we only know ourselves as well as we know ourselves that moment, right? And the only comfort to me is that even though it's more complicated now, we still want the best for each other. “In The Fixed Stars, Molly Wizenberg tackles the ever-shifting issues of marriage, motherhood, and sexual orientation with the same compassion and unflinching honesty that have become the hallmarks of her writing. She was the heady romantic, springboarding into a personal and professional partnership with musician-turned-pizzaiolo Brandon Pettit. Copyright © 2020 NPR. You wanted to memorize, like, every piece of her. All rights reserved. 2,189 Likes, 62 Comments - Molly Wizenberg-Choi (@molly.wizenberg) on Instagram: “Just read about Trump's announcement that transgender people will no longer be allowed in the US…” He let you have the opportunity to date women. It is entirely possible that, like Debbie Hunt’s earrings, no one will love them but us. And I felt so much shame because I did not want to - I didn't want this to be happening to me.

WIZENBERG: It's interesting because, you know, when I hear you describe it back to me, which you did so well, it sounds so groundless, right? I think about this both as, you know, in romantic relationships and also in terms of my parenting. Before the rupture, her husband and daughter, their restaurants and her writing career, those were the stars that formed the constellation of her life. So there were moments when... CHANG: She was just like an idea in your head at that moment. WIZENBERG: Yeah. Visit our website terms of use and permissions pages at www.npr.org for further information. I was afraid you would ask that.

But looking back, was there a part of you that knew from the very start that this opening that both of you allowed in the marriage would end up dooming the marriage? 36.6k Followers, 1,020 Following, 2,399 Posts - See Instagram photos and videos from Molly Wizenberg-Choi (@molly.wizenberg) And there were moments when I really questioned my sanity to allow myself to be sort of pulled along by these fantasies about someone I didn't even know. WIZENBERG: I didn't want to upend my life or change the way I knew myself. In general, I have preferred to simply eat them, and to leave their making to the pros. I don’t. When Molly Wizenberg was 36, she discovered something new about herself - an intense, undeniable desire to love and be loved by another woman after a lifetime of relationships with men. (I feel the same way, incidentally, about baguettes, croissants, and cheese.) The authoritative record of NPR’s programming is the audio record. And this woman was a very masculine-presenting woman. WIZENBERG: Thank you so much. I want to start where this story starts - with jury duty - because I want to talk about what went through you when you were on jury duty and you first laid eyes on one of the defense lawyers, a woman in a men's suit. I so enjoyed both. I felt, like, changed by this crush. So what was very strange about this moment for me is that I had never had a woman catch my eye quite the way that this woman did. WIZENBERG: It sounds so groundless.
It felt very destructive. I had a daughter who was not quite 3. WIZENBERG: Yeah. CHANG: Well, then you and Brandon temporarily decide to sort of rewrite the rules of your marriage. This felt like it really stuck to me. I would rather acknowledge that we are constantly shifting and get to work on how we choose to stay together anyway and how we grow together than pretend that we are fixed. (SOUNDBITE OF ANGEL OLSEN SONG, "THOSE WERE THE DAYS"). It feels good to me to look the truth in the face and choose to hitch up our stars anyway. When Molly Wizenberg was 36, she discovered something new about herself - an intense, undeniable desire to love and be loved by another woman after a lifetime of relationships with men. I started out as a food writer focused on home cooking, using food as a lens for examining everyday life and relationships. She makes the everyday extraordinary and brings depth … CHANG: So in this moment, how do you feel about the story of who you are right now and the story of who and your partner Ash are together right now? WIZENBERG: Yes. Big thanks to Producer @abigailcerquitella for humoring us and to @brandonjhoff for expert Photoshopping. WIZENBERG: I think I was afraid of that.

But at the same time, I couldn't not talk with him about it, even though there was so much energy behind this crush that I was very much afraid of what it would do to us, that no matter what happened, I was going to burn down our marriage whether I wanted to or not. And yet I find such relief in the thought that I don't have to expect myself to stay the same... WIZENBERG: ...And also a great relief in acknowledging that the people close to me will keep changing, too. And so Ash is now, you know, in the constellation, too. Being married again, knowing what I know now, knowing how painful divorce is, knowing how changeable I am, how changeable my spouse might be... WIZENBERG: ...Somehow, even that unknowability feels better to me than pretending that everything is always going to stay the same. @molly.wizenberg posted on their Instagram profile: “A Very Unusual Saturday, or @nordstrom flew me, Ash, and June to New York for a family photo shoot,…” And as she made space for it, she watched her marriage of almost 10 years disintegrate, as well as the story she once told herself about who she is and what she wants. This crush felt dangerous. Accuracy and availability may vary. You take that belief head-on. But if I … MOLLY WIZENBERG: Thank you. Yes. molly.wizenberg Our @spilledmilkpodcast is a decade old — WHAT THE, yes?— and to celebrate, we made these postcards for our subscribers. No matter how hard she tried, it was a desire she could not will out of existence. And I love that idea. I'm thrilled to be here. S he was the twentysomething with the tangerine bangs, sipping Lillet in a brick-walled bar. CHANG: And at the same time, though, there is a loss, right? It resonates with me, too. You realize that someone can change in the most fundamental ways - whether it be about who we love, our sexuality - and that a person can only know who she is at that one moment in time that she is in. I was interested in people, in how we find and make meaning for ourselves.

CHANG: Well, we're thrilled to have you. Of course we know our kids will change in fundamental ways. NPR transcripts are created on a rush deadline by Verb8tm, Inc., an NPR contractor, and produced using a proprietary transcription process developed with NPR.

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